By priscillalee | July 25, 2015 | 0 Comment
For any healthy relationship, setting boundaries are very important. Everyone needs space to breathe and when we fail to set limits to our relationships, we tend to do more harm than good. Many of us do not want to be labeled as selfish and rude for saying no and boundary setting may be a challenging task.
Here are the top 3 ways you can set boundaries effectively and say no without guilt –
Remember that setting boundaries is a skill that everyone can learn with a little courage and practice. In the end, you need to be respectful and kind to yourself first before you can keep others happy. The secret to ensuring your relationships are not affected by these boundaries you set, is by ensuring that boundaries are made clear from the start, and communication is KEY!
Imagine a scenario where you have issues with people using your comb, you just moved in with your partner and he starts using your comb, towel and even toothbrush whenever he feels like it! *gasp* You might feel uncomfortable telling him straight, after all you guys just started dating and you don’t want him to feel rejection from you, so you keep quiet about it. After 6 months, you had your first major fight, and in the moment of anger you burst out “I’VE HAD ENOUGH OF YOU USING MY THINGS WITHOUT PERMISSION!!!”. How do you think your partner will feel? If it was never communicated to him directly that he has crossed your boundary, but for him to find out in such a rude and shocking manner, he will be angry as well. “But I hinted to him!” – again, we are not mind readers and not all of us are good at catching hints! Be direct, be firm but be nice about it! “Hey darling, could you not use my comb next time? I’ll get one for you if you like it :)”